Allowing my natural curly hair to be… well, curly has been a powerful lesson in letting go of control.
Which is NOT my natural impulse. I like things better when they are controllable. Decide-on-able. When each element can be arranged just so. This is not possible with natural curls.
Thanks to the relationship with my mane, I’m realizing that “control” is an illusion, in most areas of life.
We like to think we can control our bodies.
I hear this notion most often with clients who have had chronic pain. They’ve worked out certain positions in which they can successfully not feel their pain, and mistake that to mean that the pain is gone.
(Not the same thing, at all.)